I am in the middle of a writer’s block and trying hard since morning to write something. In the morning I started writing for my other blog Wanderful but left that midway. Last Friday I completed 200 posts for that blog and I realised it is more than 5 years that I have been blogging there. I felt good that I actually sustained this long in Blogosphere. I wanted to write a nice emotional post to commemorate but sadly am yet to complete the post. Hopefully by end of today I should be able to post it.
It had been a hectic day and I believe am just tired. We women do get tired a lot. More than physically we get tired emotionally. We get tired because we have to multitask. It is not easy to be a woman, especially a WAHM. Modern women have evolved as a multitasker. Our previous generation were only expected to be good at household chores. They were expected to be domestic goddesses however we have to be everything. We just need to wear an invisible cape and do everything.
The other day I went for my son’s school parent teacher meeting where I met another mom. When I asked her ‘what do you do?’ her prompt reply with a tinge of guilt in her voice was ‘I don’t do anything, I am a homemaker.’ This is not something new that we heard. We are living in a age when a woman feels guilty if she is going out of the house to work, one who is working from home and also the one who is not working for a third party. We are always guilty and never ‘completely’ proud of anything.
If we go out and work we are judged as the one who is neglecting her family and kids. If we decide to give up our career we are made to feel ashamed of only cleaning and cooking and the worst kind is the WAHM who are the typical example of “dhobi ka kutta, na ghar ka na ghat ka”. We belong to nowhere. Family thinks we neglect them and always busy on our laptops and boss thinks we are always sleeping wearing sexy nightdress like Madhuri Dixit in Dil to pagal hai.
WAHM are expected to do the grocery, pick up the kid from school, prepare food, and go to the bank while simultaneously talking over the phone with the client and typing proposal documents while running the washing machine. We are expected to attend PTA meetings and meet friends for brunch and movie and also go and make a presentation in front of the client.
How to identify a WAHM? From the perpetual sign of guilt on her face. We always fear we are not good mothers because when other mothers do their child’s project we juggle various time zones to attend conference calls. We are not good wives because when other wives accompany their husbands in classy outfits we are busy writing e-mails with hair tied in a messy bun. And if some of us also have hobbies like blogging then we are the doomed.
Why is there nobody in our home or workplace who understands how tough it is to multitask? Why do we perennially suffer from guilt of not being able to do enough? I honestly feel our next generation of women will remember as the multitasking yet perpetually guilty generation.
This post is part of the #FeministMondays series (previously called #IAmAFeminist series) hosted by Nabanita. Inspired by a TEDx talk by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie – We Should All Be Feminists.
Linking this post to #MondayMusings hosted by dear Corinne.